Tumhe Dillagi: Part 7

 

Tumhen dil lagi bhool jani padegi

Part 7

It isn’t over until it’s over! 

Agar'chey kisi baat per woh khafa hain 

To acha yehi hai tum apni sahi karlo 

Woh maaney na-maaney yeh marzi hai unki

Magar unko ′PURNAM' manaa kar to dekho

( please start with part 1. This is part 7.) 

Agar'chey = even though

kisi = some

baat = issue, matter

per = over

woh= he/ she/they

khafa = displeased, upset

hain= is, are

To = then

acha = better

yehi = this

hai= is

tum = you

apni= own

sahi = right, true

karlo= do Woh = he/ she/ they

maaney = agree

na-maaney = disagree

yeh =this

 Marzi = choice, preference 

hai = is

unki= theirs/ his/ hers Magar = however, but

unko= to them

′PURNAM'= whole heartedly, with all sincerity

Manaa kar to dekho= try to win over or convince

 The song started out emphasizing the stark difference between infatuation and love. Unlike infatuation, love demands deep commitment. With commitment comes suffering and only those who are willing for sacrifice are fit for the challenge of love. 

Having verified the qualifications for pursuing true love the poet walks us through the stages of intimacy that begins with modesty, awkwardness, and then surrender of space. Once the honeymoon phase is over comes the rough patch of handling life’s problems, often at the expense of the partner. Through forbearance the relationship can stretch for a while until it hangs on to a thin thread that calls for a moment of insight and reflection on priorities. This is the make or break phase for the relationship where either both partners revisit their commitment, admit their mistakes and be prepared to make necessary adjustments and corrections to stay together, or unwilling to make repairs they opt to part ways.

A very subtle yet important point to consider is the guarding of freedom of each partner in the relationship at every stage despite the shared space. 

There is commitment in love but not imprisonment. Each person stays in the relationship with their free will. 

The poet comes a full circle in the last verse to conclude that,after all the highs and lows in the life together, if his beloved is unable to forgive any mistake on his part or disapproves of something he does, then it is best to let each decide their own path. 

However, before calling it quits he reminds himself of the initial commitment he made before entering the relationship of love, and that was to give it his all. And that’s what he would do now. Everything in his capacity to pacify his partner and cajole her to reconsider the situation and iron out the differences while leaving the door open for her if his last attempts fail. 

In spiritual context too human mind is difficult and extremely challenging to please all the time. God remains a patient witness and allows all indiscretions with full understanding of how stressful ground realities are. But time and again HE gives an insight to the person that it is only out of pure love that these wrongdoings are overlooked. The world will not show the same forgiveness for such behaviors. A wise person would take the message and make an effort to change and keep walking in the path of devotion and remain loyal to God. His free will decides his fate. God holds no one prisoner. Yet God never gives up on anyone. HE tries to show the way where there is least damage and lasting happiness. 

Despite all the highs and lows in the life of the saints like Meerabai or Sant Tukaram, history never said that they called off their relationship with God. Love prevailed and how !! 

Tukaram Maharaj’s words sum up the story precisely.

Haachi nem aataa na phire maaghaari 

Baisale shejari Govindache 

There is no turning back from here. I am seated next to my God Govinda for good. 

Saree is a color block pure Chhattisgarh tussar. Paired with printed Mashru silk blouse.